Does he make you feel like a million dollar bill? Does he got you spinning round and round? Whitney croons this line in one of her newest songs. I love the song, the beat, and vocals. The lyrics - well, that's another story. No offense Ms. Houston, but isn't this how women get in trouble in the first place?
One of the downfalls in my marriage was that I expected my husband to make me feel a certain way. I expected everything from one person. This is ludicrous! My ex is a human being. All too often, women idolize men. We put them on a pedestal and expect that they will fulfill our every need. When he disappoints me, I blame it on him. While the blame was well-derserved in some cases, I was too quick in many others to cast down my "idol" in my disappointment. True love (not just between man and woman but all people) is loving someone for who he or she is, without expectation of anything different. This purest form of love is full acceptance of a person - faults, triumphs, strengths, changes, and dirty deeds aplenty.
One of the ideas in my "cart" is learning to accept all people for who they are. I don't come to them with a list of expectations. The reality is what is before me; not my iconic fantasies. The people I love are not idols. Rather, they are beautiful interpretations of the human spirit, who are in perfect tune with their own paths.
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Ahhhh, “MY Emmy,” I hear the sound of you stretching and growing as a woman who fully owns herself. There was a stage play called “For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide When the Rainbow Is Enuf” It’s all about women and their search for identity. It was poetry in motion and the women’s stories while different were intertwined, what we go through, have been through and when do the breakthrough moments come, and will we recognize them when they do? My favorite line from the play is “I found God in myself/ and I loved her/ I loved her fiercely.”
ReplyDeleteMy cup is raised to you as you travel down “your road.” It’s all about the journey, and you have spoken some truths on this blog that some people never get to. We are all doing the best we can on the paths we have chosen. Keep walking my sista, it looks good on you!
You are more graceful than I can ever hope to be. I am thankful that when I divorced I did not know what a blog was. While most of my prose would have been painfully beautiful, they would have still been painful. If I had them written down in a space like this for easy reference it would have been much too easy for me to dwell (emerse) myself in them. I envy your strength, maturity and foresight.
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